Every now and then I receive topic request, and recently one in particular has kept coming up -- DATING PEOPLE WITH KIDS!
My preference to date men without children is rooted in the fact that there is one less layer to go through. I don’t want to have to deal with any complicated family situations or baby mommas. For example, I definitely could not see myself dating a man with three kids by five women. Yes, I meant that. Like who do you think you are Young Joc. Frankly, it says to me that you are irresponsible in making your life choices--unless that was your goal all along and you will obviously still get a side eye from me.
I once went on a date and I asked the gentleman if he had any kids. His response – “Yea I have two kids, but you don’t have to worry about them. I don’t see them on the regular.” O_O Excuse me sir, what did you just say? That response was so gut wrenching that it quickly canceled any chance he had with me. Gentlemen, it is not an acceptable dating technique to openly--and almost proudly--admit that you are a deadbeat dad. On the flip side, if you do have children and you are an amazing, loving father--that speaks very highly of your character, and should be a good sign for any woman who chooses to date you.
So, in a nutshell, from my point-of-view, having one or more kids is not a deal breaker, but it is not my preference either…
Talk to me -- do you like to date people with kids? Are you a person with kids and do you think it affects your dating life?
AB